As a female in a male dominated industry who just today discussed survival of the fittest with her male colleagues one of whom was of the opinion that in other species, the male must be the colorful one to attract the females and wasn't he glad in the human species it's the women who must attract the males, I was intrigued by this article.
It turns out society's been changing: from industrial based to information based (newsflash!), and men are not adapting. More women are going to college and graduate school (to the point where schools may be starting to skew admissions decisions in order to keep the male to female ratio at least 40/60). And
The attributes that are most valuable today—social intelligence, open communication, the ability to sit still and focus—are, at a minimum, not predominantly male. In fact, the opposite may be true. Women in poor parts of India are learning English faster than men to meet the demands of new global call centers. Women own more than 40 percent of private businesses in China, where a red Ferrari is the new status symbol for female entrepreneurs. Last year, Iceland elected Prime Minister Johanna Sigurdardottir, the world’s first openly lesbian head of state, who campaigned explicitly against the male elite she claimed had destroyed the nation’s banking system, and who vowed to end the “age of testosterone.”And then there was what may be my favorite paragraph I've read this year:
Up in the Air, a movie set against the backdrop of recession-era layoffs, hammers home its point about the shattered ego of the American man. A character played by George Clooney is called too old to be attractive by his younger female colleague and is later rejected by an older woman whom he falls in love with after she sleeps with him—and who turns out to be married. George Clooney! If the sexiest man alive can get twice rejected (and sexually played) in a movie, what hope is there for anyone else?Shouldn't the hope be that he grows up or at least grows as a person and learns to live in his new world?
The article's hypothesis seems to be that women are looking at the men and thinking: if the men can't provide for them and their children, who needs them? I'll call my own shots and be very happy doing it, thank you very much. The article doesn't seem to draw any conclusions about what all this means or where we go from here, but I say Men: the gauntlet has been thrown down. Man up.
This probably sums up most perfectly why I have remained single:
ReplyDelete"...women are looking at the men and thinking: if the men can't provide for them and their children, who needs them? I'll call my own shots and be very happy doing it, thank you very much."
The areas in which a man can add value in my life are diminishing.